dont expect his heart
So you loose your virginity to a guy whom you think you will spend the rest of your life with…reality happens and you realize that it was actually more of a learning curve. Most girls have a lot of expectations when coming to sex and perhaps thats the problem. It shouldnt be, but unfortunately it is.
A friend of mine lost her virginity to a guy she so dearly loved. At that point, he was her everything in a sense that he was exactly what she had been “praying” for apparently. A few months- if not a month, down the line the very same guy that told her he loved her started acting strange. He just fliped over and changed towards her. Now you can only immagine how she felt. I had been there from when it was all sweet till now when she still cries tears of heartache.
The issue here is how women attach emotions to sex. You see, if we were in highschool i would understand the expectations factor as you live in a world where everything is perfect. A world where Black is black and white is white and there is no possibility of having a grey in between (read that over and over untill it makes sense). At this point or rather at that point she was in, she had been exposed to the real world. I know she had known of someone else that had obviously had their heart broken, so what was she expecting?
Anyhow, i just strongly feel that women should evolve from the “He loves me theory” because it is soon to be extinct. He wont sleep with you because he loves you, he will sleep with you because you happen to be there at that point when he has an errection so get your emotions out the way and make sure you get an orgasm out of it because you ertainly wont get his heart!
September 10th, 2009 at 8:09 am
A very thought provoking read.It is harsh yet truthful.I think people,especially women should learn that your first partner or first sexual engagement does not mean you will be with that person for life.
However I disagree with you that people should not put their emotions in it.Sex is an emotional engagement.When you have sex with someone you give part of your self to that person and they the same.Which is why you should always have it with someone that you love however understanding that the relationship (or one night stand) may not last.
September 11th, 2009 at 6:13 am
I agree about the expectations thing, however some guys won’t give thier hearts because of wht girls have done to hurt them…it works both ways. Sex, if handled correctly, can be the most sacred emotional committment, but of course we live in an age of non committment, so yes, one can’t expect anything from anyone these days.
September 11th, 2009 at 7:02 am
Well, refer your friend to my blog,she will understand.Do u actually believe that there is something called love?.no offence but you cant lose your virginity at 15 and expect to spend the rest of your life with that guy,come on its theory
September 18th, 2009 at 11:41 am
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